No good deed gone unpunished

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skip to main | skip to sidebar Monday, April 26, 2010 I will briefly cover the events of the evening when the nice police men showed up. K's father decided to threaten me by telling me that he was bringing a gun up to the place I was at ad shooting me. I believe that is called assault with a deadly weapon, I cant be sure but when you are accused of something as I am it is "justified." Her father read the messages in the phone and could not tell what was sent to me and what was sent from me. So here is how the police operated. They showed me the copy of the texts that he had copied from the phone, not the phone itself. The sheriff himself was unable to tell me what was replies and what was messages to her. Most of the messages discussed Joey and how she was determined to "save" him. The messages I sent to her were telling her how he was going to use her and hurt her. She said she didn't care and that she loved him. Now how the hell her father got out of those replies that his daughter was trying to tell me she was uncomfortable and that what we were doing was wrong I will never know but he preceded to tell many people that is what K was telling me through texts. I plan to posts those messages in their entirety in a later post so all can see what a hopeless case K is. Or more likely what a head case she is.

I got a phone call from her on her phone that her father told the police has never had text on it, ( I used to text her the same things about joey on that phone too) pleading with me to help her with Joey. "he is on crack again," is what she told me. "Please I need to be able to talk to you when I need to." I told her to text me and she said she could not on that phone because her mother did not know that she was still in love with Joey. Shortly after this her mother approached me and told me that she had seen school footage of K and Joey basically making out at school. K's Mother then pleaded with me to, and I quote "I don't care what it takes to get that boy out of her life, do it!" So when I do it this is the thanks I get?

I knew she had a crush on me and I knew that I could use that crush to get through to her. Her mother has had very little to do with K's life decisions. She has spent too much time trying to save everyone else that came along that she had forgotten that her own daughter needs to be able to talk to her not so much as her mother but an experienced woman with life under her belt. She spent her time trying to save lesbians from their "damnable" lifestyle choices. She was trying to save young girls and their sisters and their overage brother whom she brought into the house with her own daughter. K's Mother has had to chase 19 and 20 year old boys away from her daughter so often along with everyone else that we have all lost count. I have had to personally remove one boy who was 26 from the gym who was there to "see" K.

At any rate I told the Sheriff the story and he used it against me to arrest me for things I had not admitted to. This girl said I kissed her on a day when it was impossible. Then her father says I kissed her on a different day and then her mother believes that I kissed on a different day all together! Then it went from just a kiss to a french kiss with "passion." I was told by the sheriff that all she had to do was accuse me and that was enough reason to arrest me. Even with witnesses and evidence in my favor the judge thinks there is probable cause for the arrest. I even asked if all she had to do was to point a finger and the sheriff said yes. Can you believe that? So I am really hoping they can pull ALL of the texts from my phone and hers because they will see one thing she confided in me. She snuck out one evening at her grandfather's house to see a 19 year old boy. I asked her what had happened when they met and she told me exactly what they had done. I will post that information very very soon. Well I need to close

D'wolfPosted byNo good deed gone unpunishedat7:30 PM1 comment: Sunday, April 25, 2010 A loss and philosophyI have not written in my blog for some time now. Maybe I thought that it would just go away. Maybe I thought that by ignoring it would go away. I could not have been more wrong in this perception. People will hit you when you are down and if you were strong before you fell they hit you harder because they know that WHEN you get back up you will hit back. Some people though, do not have the sense to know when they should not hit because the shock will hit others and some people just do not care.

I was driven to blog about my story because the only story everyone was hearing was inaccurate. Human nature, however, is a predictable the reactions of those around me was also predictable. What was not predictable was the truly remarkable people who refused to believe the worst, who said I just cant believe he would do this. and did not believe it. Thos people are in the minority but they are strong.

We must persevere when things are the hardest for us and become stronger from the tests of life we endure. We must suffer the evils that people do unto us to become aware of the most evil things that people can do to one another. I once told someone that you can not change the nature of a dog and force upon him the nature of humans. In essence, you can not blame a dog for being a dog. I have become Ajax, I have become distrustful of people and that is NOT how I chose to be no matter the cost. People may be mean at heart because it is so easy to be cruel. This is why anger can replace love in such a quick fashion. This is why marriages are destroyed over one stupid mistake. No one ever, EVER, keeps track of the good deeds which follow a person. They only measure someone based on their few ineptitudes rather than their vast accomplishments and successes. It would be so very easy to hate the people who are trying to destroy my very existence. I chosenot to hate them, but to instruct them and all who think like them. I will do this with truth. I may believe that all people are inherently good but I also believe that to help someone you must teach them the consequences of their actions.

I was brought back to my blog because of a recent action which caused me great rage. It may be out of order but I assure anyone who reads this I will persevere and tell the story from where I left off each night from here on out.

My daughter has been through so much with everything that has happened to us. She was team mate with K and she is furious with how things have turned out. She stayed with the team she was on because she loves the people she was with. She did it also to show everyone there that she was a fighter. I stood behind her and encouraged her. I went to her competitions still, she is my daughter and I love her. I love her sport as well.

I took a new job and one of the parents saw me at my new job. This parents child also benefited from my instruction but was one of the first to believe what was being said about me. Although I have been teaching for nearly 15 years in many sports and areas of academia and have never had such an accusation leveled about me. I suppose she expected me to talk to her even though I was aware of the nasty things she was saying about me and my daughter. She went back to someone where my daughter trains and proceeded to say that I was ashamed to talk to her. It was a bit more as though I was ashamed to be seen talking to her.
However, when I wanted to go to North Carolina to watch my daughter compete at a regional competition, someone said that if I showed up there she would call the police. Now if it was the mother of K I would have remotely understood. K has since quit the sport because she in no longer special at the new training facility. So since she is not as unique as she thought she has quit. At any rate I went through my lawyer to get permission to go and watch my daughter. Since this one parent was raising such a fuss about me being there I was advised not to go. My daughter was distraught and suffered due to the parent wanting to hurt me. This same parent claimed to love my daughter but does not seem to understand that by attacking me she was hurting her. I do not think that she even cares.

So I did not go to see my daughter take third place out of 8 states. I missed a very large moment in my childs life all because some parent, who has not gotten the whole story. She has only listened to the father of K and he has lied about things that were said. What is sad is that I have the proof. More to come..

Things I plan to blog on: Ks mothers attitude when she found out she was pregnant with their last child, Ks youngest brothers mishaps and injuries and the mysterious circumstances of them, the many things that K has confided in me to include her drug use and the boys she has had physical relations with even the overage young man, the relationship she has with her mother and their rocky conversations, Ks desperate pleas for help on her alleged eating problems, Ks actions with in her old training complex.

I really do not want to reveal dirt but these stories will reveal the reasoning behind these accusations.Posted byNo good deed gone unpunishedat8:24 PM1 comment: Tuesday, March 9, 2010 To know the present I must illuminate the past IITo pick up where I left off. The mother did not change the way she did business and neither did K. She drug her feet and expected us to move her to 7 alone. I was content to allow her to stay in 6. This move on our behalf made a few of the other girls mad, I will discuss this in a later post. So this competition year was by far the worse. K was nearly thrown out of the gym because of her attitude on many many occasions. I guess I should have thrown her out a few times but I was just being to nice. She was a moody girl. Her swings were horrible even to what she called her friends. No one on the team really liked her but I protected her. (No good deed goes unpunished) I catered to her injuries and provided therapy for many of them. I placed a tens machine on her several times.

Soon her mother, was irate because K was hanging around with Joey. She saw her hugging and pretty much kissing him at school. She told me "do what ever it took to get her off of that boy. K is what you would have to call an addict. She was obsessed over this boy. There were times when she would say "I don't care about me, I just want to fix him." he was her drug and she took him in great doses. She was given a phone and I would text her and she me when she was weak and needed to talk. I would talk her through it by joking with her through texts, Like close friends do, talking trash.

When her dad found the phone all hell broke loose. More to come about that day in the next post.

-Vengeance is one of the seven deadly sins.Posted byNo good deed gone unpunishedat7:42 PM1 comment: Winning Speech about humanity

Do you know what the largest living organism on the planet is? It is not the Blue Whale, the largest animal to have ever lived; it is not an elephant in fact it is not even an animal. It is a mushroom, a simple fungus. How is this possible? Mushrooms are small, insignificant, unimportant organisms. Sure, some of the caps are as large as your head but on the whole they can not be the largest living organism. As with most things, it is not what we see that is important. Just beneath the surface in the darkness of the ground the root system of this mushroom travels nearly ten miles and twelve miles in the other. This root system is so inter-connected that it is considered one organism. That is right; the cap that you see at one end is the same organism as the cap twelve miles away. If one cap breaks off the organism does not perish it continues on. It is the largest living thing simply because it is connected.

I am not going to speak with you about fungi and mushrooms; I am going to give you a state of the human race address.

If a primitive fungus can be connected physically, why can the most sophisticated creature on the planet not be socially and emotionally? Why can we not be as connected to a collective through emotional and social contact? The answer is so simplewe are the problem, we are the issue, and we are the cause to the inevitable effect of our own demise. We do what is easy, rather than what is right.

Every single human being on earth is has interchangeable parts. Our blood, our organs, our hearts can be shared by every human being. We even bend light the same way. We all possess the same life cycle and we are susceptible to the same diseases. We all start life the same way and end life the same way; it is what we do in between those two events that make us loose our connection to our own humanity. We do what is easy rather than what is right.

How did this happen? It was all too easy. To understand it all, however, we must take a look at the animal kingdom. All animals have instilled in them what is called species preservation. It is this instinct which makes rattlesnakes wrestle rather than bite each other. It makes deer rack horns rather than gore each other. Basically they all believe that if they kill their own kind, they will effect their own extinction. Humans are animals and belong to the animal kingdom; however, sometimes being the most intelligent creatures has its downfall. We have found a way around this instinct. By simply calling another human being a sub human name we can deny them their humanity. We believe the atrocities associated with these names. It allows us to disavow, disconnect and even discontinue our fellow human beings. It is so easy but it is not right.

By incorporating a simple word, a simple phrase, we can illicit such irreparable emotional hatred from our fellow human beings that would otherwise not exist. We can separate ourselves from them and make them separate themselves from us. This has been done, is being done and will continue to be done because this hereditary instinct somehow requires this of us. We do it because it is easy, but it is not right.

What is hereditary instinct? It is a trait that is passed on to us by out peers, out parents, and our environment. It is usually passed on indirectly to us by way of attitude, atmosphere, and posture. Someone looks different and acts different so we call them names and deny them their humanity as a group. None sect of humanity is exempt from this hereditary instinct. Not a single person is immune from it. We will all catch it at some point in time and in some of us it will thrive and spread much worse than any other virus ever could. We do it because it is easy, but it is just not right.

Imagine if our mushroom were to develop the same attitude that we have toward each other. It would suffer catastrophic fatality. In short it would die. It is amazing that such a primitive organism could be so educationally important to the human civilization but falls to the wayside simply because its most prudent contribution is unseen, and since it is unseen it is unimportant. But human beings are disconnected by what we can see rather than what we should see. We could be the largest living organism on the planet if we chose to be. Yes, we have a choice! Yes, you have a choice. You can choose to do the right thing rather than the easy thing. You can connect despite your hereditary instinct. You can look right and left and connect with the human being beside you by simply saying hello. We need to change our hereditary instinct and become the largest living organism on the planet by doing what is right, doing it often, making it easy, and then we can do what is easy because it is right.

Despite what is going on in my life right now, I still have to beleive that this speech holds true. My own personal beliefs are at stake as much as the mother's beliefs. I know that harboring hatred fro someone who is genuinely good at heart will twist my own heart. It is hard not to hate because hate and vengence are so very easy but they are just not right.

D'Wolf

Posted byNo good deed gone unpunishedat5:47 PMNo comments: To understand the present I wil illuminate the past

Three years ago I met the biggest mistake of my life, she was a relative no body at the time but I saw potential in her. She had an unhealthy obsession with a boy who was going to destroy her. Why should I have cared? She was not my daughter. I cared because her mother had no idea how to handle the matter. She knew very little about her daughter anyway. So I started helping her as much as I could. She "claimed" to have an eating disorder. I can tell when there is rapid weight loss to anyone and she was not having that issue. She was muscular and healthy looking. There was a problem though, her mother rarely cooked and most of the meals at home were take out. This can cause issues if there is too much preservatives and not enough focus on what the body needs. As a child when we don't really think about it, we choose the right foods because of our natural cravings. As we get older and more self conscience we tend to omit foods that we need because we have the choice. This girl, I will identify her as K from here on out, was not eating at school, She was not eating breakfast and her mother wanted me to intervene. I choose to do so and with her mother's permission and enthusiasm, I went to embarrass her at school with a fellow coach. The purpose was to also make her eat. We did this and she ate. This was the only girl we had to do this with in order to "save" her and get her to eat. We did this several times. I think it was a cry for attention that she was just not getting at home. If she was getting attention I believe it was the wrong kind. But Bad attention is better than no attention, Right?
We attended her lunches several times but just in the one year. During our competitions K would break down over the simplest things. My other coach was just not the one to offer physical comfort so I would sit there and make her laugh so she would focus on the next event. I did this with her mother watching and even pushing it forward. (Dont worry, no good deed goes unpunished). I got her through the year and out of Level 5.

Over the summer her fixation with a boy named Joey began to run rampant in her life. Her mother had no idea how to handle this and the tighter she pulled the more K wanted this creep. He's the typical manipulator. "Oh, I am hooked on crack!" "OH, I am going to jail because I have killed someone." He didnt care and I tried to tell her this over and over. She was doing it because her mother HATED this boy. This is typical problem between mothers and daughter who CAN'T COMMUNICATE! It seemed the mother more or less refused to communicate with K. If it did not follow her way of thinking or living it was wrong. This was the mother at her finest.

During the next school year it got worse and K wanted everything to be about her. Most of the other girls in the gym who worked out with her began to hate her. She wanted all of the attention. She had to have all of my attention. My own daughter began to hate her.

Now K has a younger sister who also feels left out of the mix. The mother refused to bring them both in at separate times so the place I worked allowed the younger daughter to train at the same time. The younger daughter Sustained injury after injury. She would become a recluse during practices and I tried and tried to get her to join the practice.

In the beginning my daughter and her daughter were friends and she went to spend the night with K. They went swimming and while swimming my daughter broke her hand at their pool. Was I supposed to sue? I don't know but I did not. Even though it meant a cast, a setback in training and therapy for about 6months total. They were worried, but I assured them it was ok.

By this time K had ruined so many practices that my daughter wanted nothing to do with her. The only reason she tolerated K was because they were in the same class. K even went so far one practice as to ruin it for the whole team. A bad mood is highly contagious and one girl got into trouble with her mother because she was having a lousy practice. I told both my daughter and K that this was the case and that they controlled practice atmosphere not me.

To my daughter, she took it to heart and livened up during practice even if it was bad. She became the example I was hoping for from a higher level girl. K stayed the same and even regressed.

I refused to let K compete for her first 6 meet because of injury. Her mother was happy that I was looking out for her daughter and I was looking out for her. (Once again no good deed goes unpunished) It took some time for my daughter to get out of 6 but through great practices she did it. K on the other hand never got out. She went to a camp and refused to let any other coach touch her even to save her life. She didn't listen to any other coaches but me and my fellow coach. She still had to have the attention and the other girls resented her for it.

I mentioned the younger daughter earlier and this part is relevant. Several times the younger daughter cry to mother because she was not getting the attention K was. The mother complained to no ends. One time my daughter told the younger daughter to get out of the other coach's car and she cried to her mother. The mother then took it upon herself to verbally assault my daughter. The other coach wanted to handle this and I allowed it. My wife wanted to talk to the mother. I would not allow that.

I have ran out of time and I will post again tonight under pat two of this

"Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." -Jesus

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