#DearFatPeople

I consider "news" the trending section on Facebook. That's super bad, and I need to catch up on things that are happening in the world that are actually important, but I wish the "real" news was filled with trending animal videos like on Facebook, so I stick to that.

However, today while I was scrolling through the trending section, I saw a hashtag, #DearFatPeople, that was trending. Little did I know, I was about to get very, very angry.

I debated posting the original video on here, but decided not to because I don't want that crap on my blog. So I'll just give you the low-down.

"Comedian" Nicole Arbour posted a video on her YouTube channel "calling out" fat people. She first said there's no such thing as fat-shaming (SO not true), and then goes on to degrade people who are fat, and says she's trying to "help" them by "calling them out." Unfortunately, all she accomplished was getting her YouTube channel shut down, and making thousands of people feel really crappy about themselves.

I'm not going to go into all the details about what she said, because it just a big fat (no pun intended) load of negativity. Instead, I want to talk about all the things fat people can do.

1. Fat people can give you a hug when you're sad
2. Fat people can give you a high-five when you did something awesome
3. Fat people can help you study for a big test
4. Fat people can spend the day with you at the beach
5. Fat people can do whatever the heck they want

Your body fat percentage does NOT determine the kind of person you are, or your capabilty to be a good human being. Bodies are subject to change, but the person inside doesn't. And it's the person inside that is our mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, best friends, and spouses.

I just wanted to say to all my "fat" friends and followers....I love you. Keep doing you. And I just made us brownies. Let's have a virtual brownie tea party.

My Leggings are Modest

My patience has been quickly dwindling for a topic that has been floating around my Facebook News Feed, and today it was peaked. What is this topic? Modesty, or the lack thereof.

I grew up in an extremely religious community, which I am still a part of (and love). But from the time I was a young 12-year-old girl, I noticed an inconsistency. I remember one time wearing purple nylons with a KNEE-LENGTH skirt, and being called a "hooker" by an adult in our congregation. I remember wearing a ONE-PIECE swimming suit, and a young woman leader yelling at me from across the field, "Do you really wear THAT in public?" I even had another person come to me and tell me I wore too much eye liner.

But here's the funny thing, the same afternoon I was getting yelled at from across the field, called out at church, or crticized at an activity, I would have a mother in that same ward come to me and say they loved the way I dressed, and represented myself. Or another time, a mother came to me and asked if I would teach their tween daughter how to do their makeup like mine.

And now, as a young adult, I still get called-out by people, and complimented by others. This all has lead to me to a conclusion about the topic of modesty: The people complaining about it don't know the actual definition.

I Googled it, and the definition of modesty is, "behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency."

Notice, "appearance" is LAST on that list. I feel like I can end this blog post just by that last sentence, but I'll continue.

People's judgmental and condemning attitude towards woman who wear leggings, bikinis, purple nylons, or anything else for that matter is more immodest than whatever can be worn on the outside. 

But you know what they say, "Every member a Bishop" (rolls eyes).

So girls, wear whatever makes you feel comfortable, beautiful, and like a daughter of God. It's your attitude inside the clothes that makes you modest, not the clothes themselves.