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ashleyd / September 8, 2019 Favorite Things August 2019

Even though August has come and gone, I wanted to share a few things that I found myself loving last month. I’m personally still trying to find a more regular posting rhythm as I still love and appreciate the community that has formed through this blog and social media over the past nine years. Every time I ask readers what they want to see more of it includes posts about favorite things, Katie and fashion. So, today you’ll get a little bit of everything in this edition of Favorite Things.

Live Plants – Bo and I just renewed the lease on our apartment for another two years and therefore have decided to invest in a few small things to continue making our apartment feel more like a home. Now that Katie is 2 years old and understands the word no, we felt it was a safe time to invest in some house plants. Historically, the only plant we’ve had is a small snake plant which never thrived. This time Bo did a lot of research before finding a local company, Greenery Unlimited, which specializes in plants for New York City spaces. Their site allowed us to filter to our exact needs and issues such as low light and small spots. We ended up purchasing five plants, my favorite of which is a large Dracaena Cane for the corner in our bedroom. The plants add a hint of life to the home while also having a wealth of mental and physical health benefits. Did you know that live plants can boost moods, clean the indoor air, reduce stress and sharpen focus?Weekend Edition of the New York Times – Since Katie was born, we’ve tried to limited the time we spend on our phones and devices while she is awake. On Sunday, this meant that our habit of reading the New York Times on our iPad was a difficult one, squeezed into her nap time. Since we enjoy reading the newspaper while sipping our coffee and eating breakfast, we recently decided to subscribe to the weekend edition of the New York Times. This allows us to read the paper while Katie eats or plays and, sometimes she joins us! This morning she spent five minutes pointing and “telling” us about the pictures in the style section.Sparking Jewelry – Isn’t it crazy that so many of us wear rings on a regular basis but rarely take the time to clean it so it shines to its full potential? After a summer of sweat, sunscreen and salt water had caused my ring sparkle to fade, I searched for an easy at-home cleaning solution that leverages ingredients under my sink. While my first method of soaking my rings overnight in a water Dawn solution worked well, this DIY jewelry cleaner, which combines a few more ingredients worked EVEN better. As always, please do research before using any cleaners on your jewelry as some stones are more sensitive than others. I’ve only used this on my engagement and wedding ring.Keratin Treatment – After reading about Charlie and Grace’s positive experience with keratin, I decided to give it a try. Even though my hair is naturally straight, during the humid summer months, it frizzes at the first sense of humidity. Since I spend at least 50% of every work day on a video conference with my remote team members, I hoped that keratin would make the process of doing my hair easier especially since I wash it often due to morning workouts. While it is definitely an investment, I have found the experience and payout to be very positive. The treatment, which took 3 hours, has reduced my style and prep time by at least 50%. I can choose to blow dry or air dry my hair and the result still looks great. It isn’t stick straight but the frizz is almost zero. If I choose to blow dry my hair, I don’t have to follow with a straightening iron unless I truly want a stick-straight style. Even if I choose to style and straighten, the process now takes 15 minutes instead of 45 minutes. The treatment has also helped me change my habit of washing my hair daily since the treatment lasts longer if you wash less frequently. I’ve found that using dry shampoo before and after a workout and then quickly taking a blow dryer to my roots has helped me wash my hair only 3-4 times a week. While there are a number of different brands and types of keratin treatment, I opted for the brand that my local salon (Soon Beauty Lab) uses which is Cezanne. Cezanne is also one of the formaldehyde free treatments which was a priority for me. Since I need to use a sulfate free shampoo and conditioner now that my hair is treated, I’ve been using Hair Food Smooth shampoo and Pureology Hydrate Condition.Beachbody 21 Day Fix If you follow me on Instagram, you’re well aware that I just finished Beachbody’s 21 Day Fix workout program. Since having Katie I’ve had a hard time sticking to strength training as traditionally, this was the type workout that I frequently did in a group fitness or studio setting. I knew that I wanted to get back to strength training but without the stress of signing up for classes in advance or dedicating valuable time to traveling to and from a studio. After spending a few days asking for recommendations from friends and followers, I decided to give Beachbody a chance and challenge myself to give a workout plan a chance. I invested in the $99 Beachbody On Demand annual pass, which provides access to THOUSANDS of workouts and dusted off our free weights and did some research to create a plan of attack. Since I do better with a schedule, I chose 21-Day Fix. As the name denotes, the plan is 21 days of workouts that is approachable for all fitness levels due to the modifications. While working out 21 days straight can sound intimidating or like an injury waiting to happen, the program weaves together strength, cardio, Pilates, yoga which therefore builds in active rest. I successfully completed the program on Thursday and am surprised how much I enjoyed it. I found myself looking forward to the morning workouts and was able to make considerable progress in the three weeks, increasing my weights, energy, stamina, and how I feel in my clothes. My plan is to the next step in the 21 Day Fix program, 21 Day Fix Extreme, when we return from Hawaii.

Speaking of Hawaii, I am trying to focus on being present during our vacation this week. Ill most likely check in a few times on Instagram to share updates and pictures, but, for the most part, Ill share details of our 10 year anniversary trip to Kauai and Maui after the trip via a few blog posts.

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ashleyd / June 7, 2019 Friday Favorites June 7th, 2019

Happy Friday! Since I was exhausted from the work week, I decided to blog during last nights late flight back to New York. Its been a while since Ive had the opportunity to share with you all my favorite things so, since this type of post is popular, I figured Id share a few things Ive been loving recently. In addition, if youre a parent or preparing for maternity leave I highly recommend clicking to the post I shared earlier this week with tips for returning to work after maternity leave. I really enjoyed writing the post as it forced me to reflect on how much things have changed in the past 18 months.

This weekend Im happy to be staying local and catching up on cuddles and relaxing. Ive traveled 10 of the past 30 days for work which is far more than normal and more than I prefer to be away. Luckily I dont travel for the next two weeks and look forward to spending extra time with Katie. In fact, I was supposed to run the NYRR Mini 10k in Central Park tomorrow but since Ive been traveling Im choosing to think of my registration as a donation and, instead, we are heading to the beach bright and early tomorrow morning for some sand and wave fun before Katies nap.

Now, let’s dive into this week’s edition of Friday Favorites. Also, if you want to learn more about my favorite things on a regular basis, follow me on Instagram and check out the Favorite Things and Beauty Favorites section on my Instagram highlights.

After reading a few heavier books such as Educated, Hillbilly Elegy, Bad Blood and Where the Crawdads Sing I have been enjoying a few lighter books recently. Its fun to quickly read these Summer beach reads in the evening and work my way through multiple different books in just a week. Over the past few weeks Ive read Normal People (3 stars), Daisy Jones The Six (4 stars), The Unhoneymooners (4 stars) and All We Ever Wanted (4 stars).  After a few light reads, Im starting We Were The Lucky Ones which is a highly recommended World War II book.Recently my face has had some unruly breakouts along my chin due in part to stress and travel. During my facial last week, it was recommended that I start using a toner in that area as well as ensuring that I remove all my makeup each night before bed. But, the exciting part of my facial was that outside of that trouble zone, my fine lines and discoloration has improved greatly over the past few months.  The biggest change Ive made is the use of Beautycounters Overnight Resurfacing peel. I use it every other night and love the glow that I see the next morning. After washing my face in the evening I apply it under my moisturizer and eye cream. Make sure to apply it to a dry face and let it absorb fully before applying any moisturizer or facial oils. I know the name is confusing but this is not a mask or peel that is rinsed off or peeled off after applying. Just go to bed and let the formula work magic.I finally ordered a pair of Rothys after having multiple co-workers and friends rave about them. While I still love my M.Gemi and JCrew flats for work, my Rothy sneakers are an evening playground and weekend favorite. The white color can easily be bleached or washed and the insoles and support make the shoes comfortable enough for long walks or park adventures. I ordered my true size for this style and then in the pointed style, which I just ordered, I went up a 1/2 size based on reviews.I love wearing Birkenstocks all Summer as they provide support when Im walking through Brooklyn or playing with Katie. However now that Katie is obsessed with playing outside and splashing in the water I quickly realized I needed something that could survive mud and water. Luckily Birkenstocks new Arizona EVA Essentials sandals are the perfect option. They have the same, great support that my rose gold Arizona style has but now is a water-friendly EVA material and only $39.95! I bought the white color as I knew I could wear it with anything AND use a Mr Clean eraser to spot clean.  I wore them this morning to walk Katie to nanny share and was amazed how comfortable they were and that they didnt need to be broken in at all!Summer running has arrived and that means that Im running in shorts and tanks 99% of the time. Once again, this summer my favorite running tank is the Brooks Hot Shot Tank which is lightweight and quick-drying which makes it a perfect fit for my sweaty nature. I wore the blue one this morning and received compliments from four different people including the guy who prepared my bagel sandwich!Driving in Arkansas this week, I was able to listen to a podcast during my commute each day which was a fun treat. Right now, I am primarily listening to NEWS or PARENTING podcasts. My favorite parenting podcasts are UNRUFFLED and LIFE KIT. My favorite news podcasts that Bo and I both listen to daily are NPR News Now, Up First, and The Daily.

Have a great Friday!

Disclaimer: This post is not sponsored and instead is a list of the things of my favorite things this week. As normal, it includes lots of beauty and fashion items which means there are a few affiliate links via ShopStyle. It takes time and money to maintain a blog so I thank you for the support and few cents that come from clicking through the links!

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ashleyd / June 5, 2019 Tips for Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

Its hard to believe that I have been a working mom for over a year and half. The journey has evolved a lot since my first day back. Even though I have a number of working mom role models in my life, including my mom and many of my closest friends, I wasnt prepared for the anxiety that I experienced.  I remember wondering how I could go from spending all day with Katie to only having 3 hours per day with her Monday through Friday. I thought that Katie would forget about me and fall in love with her nanny. I worried that within months of returning to work I would realize I didnt want to have a career.  Luckily, these feelings only lasted a few weeks before I found my groove and realized the value and impact that I can have by playing both roles mother and career woman. However, looking back, there are many things that I did in advance of going back to work that helped with the transition but, overall, there are a few things I wish I had done differently.

This picture was taken after my first day back at work. I remember holding her closely and telling her that from this day on the evening hours from 5:30-7pm would be our precious time together. Guess what? These 90 minutes of park laughs and bath time splashes are still the moments I treasure with Katie daily. 

Being a working mom is not for the faint of heart, but it is also an opportunity that Im so grateful to have. I am able to role model for Katie that a strong, driven, passionate career woman can also be a loving, thoughtful and nurturing mother. It isnt easy traveling to Arkansas, San Francisco, Cincinnati or China but constant communication and clear expectations with both my work team as well as Bo, has allowed our family and me to thrive. During my first year back at work I traveled an average of two days every other month and now its closer to three days per month. While I would always prefer to be with Katie and Bo, I have come to make priority calls on travel in order to ensure that it is worthwhile and make the most of the travel experiences both personally and professionally.

I said yes to the incredible opportunity to travel to China but said no to staying longer and touring the country. 

Last week, when texting with my friend who is going back to work next week, I remembered the anxiety and overwhelming feelings that I experienced when I was in her shoes. In hopes to calm her nerves, I shared a few of my tips with her and then promised that Id ask my followers for their tips as well.

Spoiler alert Katie still loves me and has thrived in her nanny share situation. While she has a great nanny whom she loves and talks about, it hasnt kept her from running towards me each night when I pick her up. 

Here are a few things that I share with friends and co-workers who are returning to work after becoming a parent.

Feel confident in your child care choice and then, once it is established, have your child start at least a week in advance of when you return to work. Katie only started 1-2 days early and I wished Id had more time to run errands, relax and prepare.Dont spend a lot of money on your work wardrobe if your body is still evolving, but make sure you invest in a few pieces to give you confidence in your body NOW. Buy a few key pieces that you can feel confident in and then, invest in a few more pieces each month as your body changes. I bought 2 dresses, 2 blouses, 2 pairs of pants and some fun accessories from LOFT and Jcrew Factory before returning to work.  A great, new hair cut  and updated skin care routine or makeup can also help you feel your best.Realize that it will take a village you cant nor should you try to do it all. Have a two way conversation with your significant other or support system talking about how youll manage different scenarios (train delays, illness, work travel, client dinners, etc).Ask co-workers for tips. I firmly believe that some of the best advice can come from co-workers who work in your same office as they are aware of the workplace culture, insurance complexities, benefits, etc.Read the book The Fifth Trimester and prepare to take notes, nod your head, highlight sections and want to find someone to talk about the topics with immediately. It was a GAME CHANGER and so helpful!If you travel for work, talk with your partner or care giver about how you want to stay in touch with your child while traveling. For me, I loved watching Katie sleep and play in her nursery on our NEST camera and then also Facetiming with she and Bo in the morning right when she woke up. However, when grandparents were helping, I didnt put technology pressure on them and instead asked for a few pictures via text each day. If Katie was with our nanny while I traveled then I asked her to send pictures throughout the day.If you travel for work, set boundaries. Its okay to go back to your room early and enjoying your first night of interrupted sleep. Nourish your body or mind by taking some time for you in between meetings by exercising, reading or doing whatever gives you energy.Set expectations with your team if at all possible. For example, when I returned to work, I shared with my manager that I would be fully connected and available from 8:30 AM until 5:30 PM but from 7-8:30 AM and 5:30-7 PM I would be 100% disconnected and invested in my family. After 18 months back at work, I still stick with this schedule and have only once needed to flex and have a meeting during this time due to an urgent client need. Overall, everyone fully supported my family time.  Most days I work at least 30 minutes before Katie wakes up and at least 30 minutes in the evening after she goes to sleep, but I have come to really value our morning and evening routine as a family.Figure out our plan and expectations as a couple for weeknight dinners.  The routine that has worked well for us is cooking a large meal on Sunday night that will provide leftovers for Monday night. Then we also food prep for Tuesday night dinner which will have leftovers on Wednesday. Most Thursday nights we either defrost something from the freezer, make a large dinner salad using ingredients in our fridge, or pick something up to grill such as turkey burgers and vegetables.

Now that Ive shared my tips, I wanted to share the very helpful recommendations that followers shared after seeing my Instagram question last Friday. Thank you so much for taking the time to provide feedback as I learned a few new things from you guys and have made note of some that Ill make sure to share with friends and apply in the future should Bo and I have a second child.

What is the one thing you wish youd known or done when returning to work after baby?

@mollylauf: I wish I had read the Fifth Trimester earlier before returning to work. I wish I had started the nanny one week earlier so I could practice the morning routine a few times and had a few days to myself to catch up on appointments. I wish I had listened to more podcasts and read more stories of women in similar roles. I wish I had joined Chairman Mom sooner.@bentfish2: Make sure you are 100% comfortable with the child care you have set up and then trust and know that your child will be OK and will likely thrive. Also, enjoy the ability to eat lunch in peace and maybe even get to the gym/workout. After work, put the phone away and just BE with your child and family.@cmorey19: I wish I wasnt so focused on pumping and getting the exact right ounces to leave for my son. We were already supplementing with formula so why did I put so much pressure on myself?@stephgerbers: Dont apologize for needing time to pump or needing a break. Dont apologize for being tired or overwhelmed.@emrcarl: Frozen meals and UberEats are a life saver. Dont pressure yourself to cook every night.@swissclarko: One thing I did and was very glad of was I progressively did the child car handover including a full day before I went back to work. I was able to go to the spa and ran errands but this helped with the transition so the first day at work was easier.@drteplinsky: Make sure your child care is flexible at end of day in case you are running late. Pump in the car if you can.@kfeldhouse: Dont jump back in full time for the first few weeks. Do a gradual transition back. Maybe half days the first week, then add a few more hours the second week, then if youre feeling ready go back full time in week 3.@heatherdyetimm: Start back with partial weeks.@carly.zhang: The biggest advice I would suggest is taking a lot of time and going with your instict to select the best childcare you feel good about. What I know in hindsight is that working mom life is a great one. I felt fulfilled by work and happier. When I was with my child, I spent more quality time with him.@jhro216: I wish Id felt more okay taking a day off work but still sending my son to daycare. In those early months when I was learning to balance everything, taking a weekday for myself to grocery shop, clean and decompress would have been amazing. I didnt get into that habit until he was 1.@susie22salcetti: Plan ahead as much as you can in the evenings to minimize the scramble to get out the door in the morning.@atthewood: Start daycare/nanny a week early so you have time to get used to it and be productive before you go back to work.@takingback20s: Give yourself time to get back in the groove and dont worry about a think but yourself and your baby. Working out, healthy eating and top job performance can wait those first few weeks while you adjust. I think a lot of people expect to just pick up where they left off and thats nearly impossible if youre sleep deprived.@aglasser710: Give yourself some race. I went back expecting work life to be just like it was before baby. Its not youre different and sometimes you need to cut yourself some slack. Take care of yourself and give yourself a break sometimes. Youll be a much better employee and mom because of it.@stephdooley814: Dry shampoo. But in all reality, just know it will get better each day even if it doesnt seem like it.@mca_ali: I wish Id known that my daughter would be okay and thrive going to daycare and that I would be a better mom having a little space.@kbalantekin: Dont have super high expectations for how much youll get done especially if youre pumping.@bananniemcg: I wish I had set more boundaries. My team were great and so flexible but I felt pressure to be super flexible too and working extra hours/evenings just did not work well with having a baby and nursing.@lbiz12: Read the book the Fifth Trimester and do a few dry runs of daycare/nanny in advance.@emilymstroup: I wish I wouldve started my daughter at daycare a few days before going back to work instead of the same day. I had so much anxiety about how she would do (she did fine) but starting her on the same day gave me anxiety.@merwharton: I wish I had taken more time off. I am also glad I made weekends a priority with my family and eased back into my work schedule.@ccdrew417: Ease in the first week. Try to go back on a Wednesday or work reduced hours if possible.@duddes02: Get an extra pump and leave it at work.@emjelosa: Know it is going to be hard, no matter what. Read the Fifth Trimester. Dont hide or be ashamed if youre pumping. Really think through and plan your routine and organize your pumping parts and milk. If hiring a nanny, have them start a few days in advance. Have snacks at work to keep your milk supply up in case you cant go out to grab snacks. Drink lots of water. Get the Elvie pump as its super helpful. Know your baby will not forget about you. Keep telling yourself that you are setting a good example of a powerful, independent women for your baby.  Dont feel guilty if you get busy and dont think about your baby every minute of the day. Weekends are sacred. Quality time with your baby over quantity. Bring pictures to work so you dont have to pull your phone out while working.@brittney_ac: Dont stress about sleep/naps at daycare/nanny as they will figure it out.@caseshan21: I was surprised that some people didnt ask about my baby and they have kids.@gretchenfox: Dont rush back in too fast and burn out.@melissakate_hanson: Set expectations with partner and boss for handling the inevitable sick days.@laurfischer: Make your first day back towards the end of the week to ease your way back into work.@erindanielson715: Your level of efficiency at work post baby will be better than ever before.@shoshanadavis: Its okay to feel not okay. It one of the hardest things to do.@megking25: I wish Id known that Id change my mind about going back to work and that would be okay.@vtbuker: I wish Id known to manage my own expectations.@skrmaine: Figure out a meal prep system to avoid takeout/unhealthy choices at the end of the day when youre tired.@ellebelleruns: Ask for a modified schedule or part time.@chloebirchlerrd: Do a dry-run day care day or two and go do something for YOU. As a working mom, I feel guilty leaving my babe more than a work hours but, use the time if you need it.@dawnerswife: There is no rush. Enjoy the baby phase and delay going back or work part time if possible.

What tips would you add to this list?

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