Baggage Reclaim Home - Baggage Reclaim with Natalie Lue

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You know how Marie Kondo helps people to declutter their homes? Well, I do that, only with your emotional baggage. The past doesn t have to be the reason you hold yourself back with people-pleasing and perfectionism, or why you settle for less than what you need, desire and deserve. let s GET STARTED I ve been looking under the hood of interpersonal relationships and human behaviour for fifteen years, putting a name and conversation to subjects that weren t being talked about (e.g. Future Faking, The Lean Period) as well as exploring the painful issues that all-too-often leave us feeling not good enough and afraid of vulnerability, intimacy and abandonment.It s incredibly important to talk about the stuff that often leaves us riddled with anxiety, shame and confusion so that we tidy up our emotional baggage and free ourselves up to love and be loved. The blog dives deep on topics including emotional unavailability, people pleasing, perfectionism, shady relationships, healing old wounds, and so much more.  check out the blog In the summer of 2005, Natalie ended it with yet another emotionally unavailable guy that wasn t ready for a relationship. During the call she asked What makes you think that I m the type of woman that would put up with a situation like this? And then it hit her as past relationships flashed through her mind: it s because she had been exactly that woman. People pleasing, going with the flow , fuzzy boundaries and letting herself be used in the name of love .That epiphany sparked a radical overhaul of her life, and since then, Natalie s used her journey to help many thousands of people break free of fear of abandonment and rejection.  read natalie s story For some of us, feeling not ‘good enough’ is as familiar as breathing. I felt inadequate and worthless from a very young age, and it‘s why I’m now a recovering people-pleaser, perfectionist and overthinker. It’s why I used to be in painful relationships forcing myself to be something I’m not. It’s why I haven’t always understood or been aware of the existence of my boundaries and bandwidth, because my default setting was that I have to be and do more to counteract my inherent unworthiness.The watershed moment in my healing was recognising that I would never blame or shame a child (or anyone else for that matter) for the things I used to hold over my head. Recognising how ludicrous it was to blame my two-year-old self for my parents breaking up or to blame and shame my younger self for other people’s feelings, behaviour and deficiencies, was grossly unfair and cruel. Something I frequently remind Reclaimers of is that, for example, inadequate parenting doesn’t equal inadequate child.I’ve gradually learned how to treat me with love, care, trust and respect, but there are parts of me that do still throw up pangs of inadequacy. The last couple of weeks have reminded me of things I’d clearly done too good a job of forgetting. But I’m OK because I’ve learned to know that even if I’m not always treated that way, I’m still enough *anyway*. And you are too.#baggagereclaim #emotionalbaggage #innerchildhealing #innerchild #healthyboundaries #beingyourself #selfhealers #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #blackillustrators #selfworthquotes #iamenough ... Sometimes we don t know how much something bothers us or that we’re still hurting, or even that we buried it until it resurfaces in our interpersonal relationships or in response to suddenly feeling seen and heard in someone else’s story, or yes, due to something that’s happened.While us humans sure can pack in a lot and we sometimes bury our pain, fear and guilt as a means of coping and surviving, we’re not designed to do this long-term. It takes a toll on us emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Feelings don t die; they become emotional charge that shows up in any situation that reminds us of it, even though we may be unaware of it. So, when we finally remember, we have an opportunity to grieve and have self-compassion, because we’ve got to feel to heal.Be kind to yourself. And if you need extra support to process, that s 100% OK.#baggagereclaim #emotionalintelligence #selfexpression #griefquotes #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #emotionalhealth #burnoutprevention #griefquotes #griefandloss #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthrecovery #selfexpression #beingyourself #feelingsquotes #selfcarequotes #selfcare #selfhealers ... Some of us are *interested* in our values, and some of us are *committed*. When we’re in a casual relationship with our values, we might only want to be and do certain things when it’s convenient. It’s possible that we’ll swing where our mood is. We might claim values to fit in or because it seems like the ‘cool’ thing, but lack genuine interest and concern for them.Committed, however, is what we are when we take a step, any step, however imperfect it might be, and then we keep going. We keep on even though the initial high and resolve may have worn off. We’ve likely learned commitment from those times when we were casual about who we are, what we need and what we stand for. Even though we don’t know exactly how things will turn out or every step involved, we keep going anyway. We tweak and refine as we go.#baggagereclaim #healthyboundaries #beingyourself #commitmentquotes #corevalues #selfexpression #honestyquotes #diversityandinclusion #integrity #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser ... This is a mood. Something I explain to people-pleasers, perfectionists and overthinkers is that if you don’t consistently feel your feelings, create healthy boundaries and basically be more you, at some point, you’re going to erupt. You’ll be like a pressure cooker that’s been left on the hob for too long, and you will implode (break down internally) and/or explode (let rip at someone in what might feel like a tsunami of anger, resentment, hurt, injustice and sadness). It’s not unusual to feel ashamed afterwards. You might conclude that anger is wrong or that your response is proof that you have no right to speak up, stand up or show up.But emotional eruptions that result in you behaving uncharacteristically and crossing boundaries or experiencing depression or burnout are a call to acknowledge pain and grief. It’s the extreme outcome of the build-up from suppressing and repressing. A heart attack, for example, doesn t come out of nowhere. There are earlier signs that were missed.Rather than fear anger and stay silent (or wait to erupt), consistently feeling your feelings and being you means that you don’t *have* to erupt. And when you look at things in these terms, you can see how collective grief caused by being silenced for too long can lead to what we are experiencing right now. Yes, it’s an imperfect and messy expression, but it’s the physical manifestation of intolerable pain and suffering. Of being oppressed, repressed and suppressed.If the change we are potentially seeing is real, then we won’t have to be here again.Note: because I like to be unambiguous, what I say here has nothing whatsoever to do with abusive relationships, so please don’t conflate the two.Quote by @nayyirah.waheed #nayyirahwaheed #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #emotionalhealth #burnoutprevention #griefquotes #griefandloss #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealthrecovery #selfexpression #beingyourself #healthyboundaries ... I spent the first twenty-eight years of my life hating myself, and I’ve spent the following fifteen years recovering from people-pleasing, perfectionism, abandonment, and, yes, trauma.Something I’ve realised this week is that every day is about me, in some way, shape or form, reminding me that I *am* worthy. And doing that for my daughters too. They’re future women *and* black, and we live in a world that does often send the message that we are not worthy.I’ve grappled with feeling like an outsider, unwanted, ‘rejectionable’ and like there’s ‘something about me’. Those feelings have subsided with years of self-care, but being treated like I’m invisible, like what I do isn’t worthy, is something I grapple with. And it isn’t in my imagination, and I don’t deserve it. But also, thank goodness I don’t let it stop me from doing what I’m here to do.Yesterday was my sixteenth blogging anniversary. The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast has 1.6m+ downloads, and I’ve been a full-time writer and blogger for 12.5 years, including self-publishing several books. Thank feck I didn’t wait for the publishing industry to give me permission.Even though people will sometimes treat you without love, care, trust and respect, or treat you like who you are or what you do isn’t ‘good enough’ or, yes, treat you as if your life matters less, you are worthy, and you bloody well do matter.#baggagereclaim #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #diversityandinclusion #selfworthquotes #selfhealers #selfhealing #blackillustrators #healthyboundaries #selfexpression #beingyourself #authenticself #authenticliving ... We mustn t accept disrespect, not even from ourselves. When we treat us with love, care, trust and respect, we won t accept crumbs from others because we’ve set the standard.#baggagereclaim #setthestandard #breakthecycle #emotionalbaggage #selfworth #selfworthquotes #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing ... So many people I come across knew that something wasn’t right, that they needed to say no, say yes to something else, make a shift, not push themselves so hard, and more, but they didn’t feel as they could allow themselves to. Many said yes to things they didn’t want to while almost hoping that something or someone else would come along and spare them from having to follow through.We don’t have to wait until our body forces us to slow down or for a catastrophe to finally give ourselves to listen to and take care of ourselves.#baggagereclaim #needs #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #listentoyourbody #listentoyourintuition #intuitionquotes #listentoyourself #burnout #burnoutprevention #burnoutrecovery ... I m frequently asked about how we go about meeting our needs. You know all of the time, energy, effort and emotion you expend on meeting other people’s needs and wants, and trying to figure out their feelings? Turn that on you.#baggagereclaim #emotionalbaggage #recoveringpeoplepleaser #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #selfhealers #healthyboundaries ... One of the things we misunderstand about being human is that sometimes we experience loneliness to let us know that we need to plug back into connection, not just with others but with ourselves. We think that loneliness is about being alone, not having loving relationships or being a ’loser’, but we can experience loneliness even we’re surrounded by others.Grief, being self-employed, motherhood, parenthood, our inner critic, outsider-y feelings, pretending to be something we’re not, hiding needs to be ’low maintenance’, keeping up a front, not wanting to be a downer, the pain Olympics where we downplay our issues because there are ’bigger problems out there’, feeling like a failure, keeping secrets, hiding who we are to fit in or avoid rejection -- the list goes on.Find your people, but also have your own back. Notice signs that it s time to plug back into yourself and loving relationship and experiences where you allow you to be vulnerable and most of all, human.#baggagereclaim #lonelinessquotes #lonelinessthoughts✨ #loneliness #griefquotes #feelingsquotes #lockdownlife #emotionalintelligence #vulnerability #vulnerabilityisstrength ... Imagine how different our lives would be if we could love, care for, trust and respect others *as well as* ourselves? The best of our relationships and opportunities make space for and welcome us loving ourselves.#baggagereclaim #selflovequotes #selflove #selfworthquotes #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveringperfectionist #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #codependentnomore #selfcarefirst ... This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. 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